Compatibility and Self-Respect. A Note Inspired By Casting On 'Nobody Wants This'.

 

           Something that recently became a blip on the celebrity news radar has inspired me to leave this note: When you're in a friendship or a romantic relationship that has been unhealthy all along, and you contemplate ending it, you might reach a point where you're ready to not prioritize emotion, and instead sort through lists of pros and cons, and if you get to that point, I recommend including a higher perspective. 

          My example comes in the form of two couples. As of this writing, Netflix has a series going called Nobody Wants This, starring Kristen Bell and Adam Brody. Their characters are building a healthy romantic connection, while the actors are in respective marriages that are unhealthy. I respect Bell and Brody as performers - they are so talented - and they're real humans, each with young children, so I'm not excited about getting gossipy here, but their fantastic chemistry in season one of the show prompted me to ask my Higher Self a little about it, and an important point I got is that they were meant to take on those roles.

Brody's wife, the equally talented Leighton Meester, was triggered by the onscreen chemistry and therefor inserted herself into season two, and before I go on, I want to say that if I were in her position, I'd be bothered, I would've had a talk with my man. I'm not judging her for getting involved. That said, the universe, so to speak, is compelled to step in at times, intending to remind us of our options when we're making choices that are far from what's best, and in this case, Adam Brody and Kristen Bell are uncomfortable right now because they've been given another, albeit more public, chance to look again at their marriages and ask themselves about staying in them, though the Other Side isn't trying to guide these people to each other. Instead, this is intended as a wake-up call, like, 'Hey, are you sure? Make another choice. You deserve something else! Come on, choose to feel better! I know that splitting up would be difficult in some very human ways, but the universe has your back!' She could live away from her abuser, find a therapist compatible with her needs, and however many years from now, when she's ready, the giving and incredibly talented Kristen Bell could commit to a different man, while Dax Sheppard, her current husband and aforementioned abuser, would no longer have to be around this person he judges and resents. In the event of his own divorce, Adam Brody would figuratively have more space for trying to balance the compassionate, coolheaded part of his personality with the regretful, self-bullying part. Speaking of which, do you remember the expression in his big, beautiful brown eyes in the movie Ready Or Not? That sorrow was not fake! Both he and his wife are so hard on him. Leighton Meester could find a man who prioritizes ambition, long term rewards, practicality and harsh judgment as much as she does. If a person wants their long-term romantic or platonic relationship to be healthy, they should make sure that core values and beliefs are compatible! Neither of these couples used that point of view when dating, let alone marrying. I have compassion for them as public figures in these unhappy, legally binding connections, but honestly, choosing authenticity means choosing greater success.  

 

          When/if we look at photos of couples, it pays off to look closely at their eyes.