No Matter Where You Go, There You Are.

        This is a note for specific loved ones of mine. 

              Something that recently became a blip on the celebrity news radar has inspired me to leave this note: When you're in a friendship or a romantic relationship that has been unhealthy all along, and you contemplate ending it, you might reach a point where you're ready to not prioritize emotion, and instead sort through lists of pros and cons, and if you get to that point, I recommend including a higher perspective.            My example comes in the form of two couples.  As of this writing, Netflix has a series going called  Nobody Wants This , starring Kristen Bell and Adam Brody. Their characters are building a healthy romantic connection, while the actors are in respective marriages that are unhealthy.  I respect Bell and Brody as performers - they are so talented - and they're real humans, each with young children, so I'm not excited about getting gossipy here, but their  fantastic  ...

              It would be reasonable and correct to assume that my parents are unaware of what an empath is and the fact that their daughter is one. For example,  they rewrite my discomfort with amusement parks as a symptom of my A.D.D.! Something else that they are unaware of is that at a young age, I got in the habit of matching Mom's energy if she came in the room highly stressed or angry, as if that's where I should be just because I'm the offspring.  As a little kid, I had my parents up on pedestals and I wanted harmony in the household, so I thought I was taking on one of my responsibilities. My parents  didn't try to manipulate me into doing so, and if they'd known about it, they would have simply said once, "Don't worry about it, honey", and moved on, as if now my reacting to Mom would be a non-problem.   

             I was trying to figure out how I’d make a certain point in this essay and – ta da!   – Christina Lopes, DPT, MPH posted something to her YouTube account that helps to get me started. On the image are the words, “Non-attachment is the most loving thing you can do”, and the post goes on to say, “Why do we cling so hard to people, things and titles? It’s not just because we love them. It’s because they hold our self-image together – like emotional superglue.”  

   I'm in need of some inspiration right now. Maybe this will help you, too. It's so essential that we focus on goals that have higher vibrations, that we focus on discernment, on appropriate neutrality, on healthy self-esteem and confidence and patience and compassion. So.

           I've been taking notes, if you'd like to read along. Recently, I wrote about 2012's The Accidental Medium by the same author, Tracy Whitwell, and this is a sequel titled, Gin Palace . Wanna watch a likeable, funny, flawed (and in my opinion, relatable) woman make mistakes and learn from them and live and feel sorry herself and solve crime with the help of dead people before she goes home to her coffee and fluffy cat and her well-written variety of relationships? If so, then come along!