If you'd lik to learn a technique of pathworking and not read about how it first came up in my life, scroll down to halfway.
There has been so much progress since June 8th, but there's still more to do and I wanted to better understand my sitaution and possible next steps. This led to a reading with Phoenix. I'm so honored, grateful and pleased to have gotten his advice, one reason being that it helped me in this current phase of remembering myself, but we'll get into that another time.
To use the 30min session efficiently, I didn't want to ramble at this man, so I wrote down what he needed to hear, which was this:
Well, the hard part is over, and I am enthusiastic about many thigns every day, learning how to repair and enjoy my connection with my inner child. This has been goin' on since June or July. That's when a psychic Reiki master I trust advised me that the difficulty I was having stemmed from a repetitive, troublemaking entity that wanted me off of my life's path and as trying everything it could find to do so. It wants to use nerves and muscles in my body, squeeze parts of my brain, and just overall distract me. Focusing on my great life is easy now most of the time, but how do I shift my perceptionentirely? How do i release remaining victim mindset, resentment, insecurity, and whatever else? I was doing my own thing, expecting this dark entity to get bored and leave a long time ago.
I asked what more I needed to address, and learned the answers to that question: Energy created by
A) A large amount of frustration and disappointment. I misunderstood how and when to move out of state, and important things weren't leaving the ground to help me achieve the goal. I was swimming against the current.
B) Worry (or fear, if that's the more fitting term) that Mom and I might never repair or mature our relationship.
I no longer believe what I did then, nor do I feel those same emotions. I'm a different woman. It was interesting to learn more about my power in this way, to hear that unintentionally, I had created strong negative energy and attracted an entity* with some compatible wounds. I was advised of solutions, including something called, "pathworking". It has been about six months since I believed the things listed above, and the fact that energy from those beliefs is still around in October '26 is quite interesting to me, something to note.
The day after my session with First Priest M Rev. Phoenix Coffin-Williams, I used the pathworking visualization he suggested and spoke to my mother, politely asking her to consider doing it, too. She said she'd think about it. The process didn't need her conscious cooperation in order to work. I could have kept this completely to myself, done the exercise alone and had still had a huge impact, but I was hopeful that we could double down on the change. I'm sharing this with the expectation that whomever could really use it right now will come across this essay and rest assured that doing it alone gets the fantastic result. The pathworking suggested to me was exactly this: as clearly as you can, picture yourself walking down the road toward, in this case, your mother, and imagine them walking down the same road toward you. Meet halfway. Phoenix also said that I could look at a picture of Mom before closing my eyes for this process to make her image stronger, which I did. I utilized the visualization and chose to have us hug when we met.
It was wonderful to hear that going through the process would not only improve the mother-daughter connection for me, but it would improve the same between one of my cousins and her deceased parent, as well as my grandmother and hers! What a simple way to make such a big, positive change! The next day, it was a pleasant surprise to learn that Mom had done it, too, also picturing us hugging in the middle of the road! Knowing that we really did this together is the most powerful part in my eyes. At some point in 24 hours, both parties in this connection pictured the same unifying thing, which, for all I know, could have helped that wound in some of Mom's family. Maybe going forward, she'll feel even better about what she had with her own mother.
I'm looking forward to using the process again and again. Jareth Tempest refers to it this way: "As a beginner, remember that pathworking is as much about exploration as it is about results. Approach it with curiosity".
According to grimoire.love, The technique was formalized and popularized as “pathworking” in the latter half of the twentieth century ...The technique has since spread beyond strictly Qabalistic practice into Wiccan, Druidic, and eclectic traditions
If you'd like to read their page about it, click here.
In May 2026, something big happened, and my immediate family responded to it by reprioritizing, which had Mom and myself seeing each other more clearly, and our communication has been much easier, much more respectful ever since. I don't fully understand the perception she had of me, nor the way she spoke. Some of her statements between 2020 and fall of '25 she would never be able to take back if she wanted to. But. When it comes to our relationship, I am truly no longer living in the past. Using introspection, journaling, meditation, traditional counseling, and some simple banishing spells, I've made real progress with self-confidence, anger and resentment and I've become a much better communicator. It seems that Mom has chosen to go back to the foundation of our connection, which is unbreakable. She speaks with me without negative presumption or frustration or anger. I now feel even better about the future of my individual life and the connection with my mom.
You and I can each make a difference in our own family lines, and this makes for one more modality among our tools.
*To be discussed later. I cannot rule out the possibility that it was a thought form, but I have my doubts.
